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Just A Little Nudity…

I’ve heard different people say, when referring to the R rating of a popular movie, “It’s a great flick! You’d love it.

So I reply, “Why is it rated R?”

“Oh, just a scene or two.”

“A scene or two of what?”

“Well…”, they say, “Adult language and nudity.”

“You mean someone is cussing while taking a bath? Is that what you mean?”


“Okay”, I’m adding a little emphasis to my words, now. “You’re telling me, as one Christian to another, that it’s quite alright to attend a movie where they show nudity and people use vulgarity just because they can?” 

“Uh, well, I, uh…”

But brother, why aren’t you a little more tolerant? 

The world is in the mess it is because of “tolerance”; only that kind of tolerance is spelled ‘c-o-m-p-r-o-m-i-s-e‘. 

Compromising God’s word does NOT please God. 

“God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor – not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 NLT)

So why should a Christian stay clear of movies which include nudity, sex scenes (graphic or implied), and scenes which ignite or fuel the inner fires of passion?

1. God says to stay away from all sexual sin. This includes movies design specifically to arouse the sexual appetite. 

2. Purity of heart, mind, eyes, and hands only enhances the genuine sexual relationships within a marriage. 

3. Fantasy cheapens and weakens marriage relationships.

4. The Lord said, “But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28 NLT). To view a woman, or a man, using ‘elevator eyes’, is akin to the act of adultery. 

If a person can commit adultery with their eyes, while the object of their affection is fully clothed, how much more so if the object is parading around on the nude, or is simulating the sex act?

5. Just because it’s available, has great actors and actresses, has a great plot, is funny, had great reviews, and everyone you know has seen it, DOESN’T make God’s Word null and void! 

6. We’re told to FLEE sexual immorality; to put out to death, not run to see more of it.

“So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. Because of these sins, the anger of God is coming.” (Colossians 3:5-6 NLT)

7. Sexual sin, which viewing movies that show nudity is, makes the heart become harder to the things of God. Filling ones thoughts and mind (with the visuals and such) with such images allows callouses to form on the spirit man to where it becomes more difficult to discern God’s voice, and right and wrong.

“Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18 NLT)

8. We have a responsibility to the Lord, our families, the Body of Christ, and ourselves to live a life free from sexual immorality. 

“Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people. Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes – these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God. You can be sure that no immoral, impure, or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God.” (Ephesians 5:3-5 NLT)

By the way, “soft porn” is still sexual sin. Looking at a person, clothed or not, and fantasizing about them sexually is sin. 

Christians, it won’t kill you to stay away from raunchy, sexually arousing, movies. In fact, you just may find yourself enjoying your marriage even more. 

Bored? Feel the need to be entertained? Find something that won’t damage your spirit, embarrass your family, or stand between you and your God.

Maybe before you by your movie tickets, ask the Lord Jesus if He’d like to attend the showing with you. 

Then act accordingly.
“And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.” (Colossians 3:17 NLT)


Your Innocent Little Secret

This post is written mainly for men, but it can also be for women; women who share in the same innocent little secret. 

You’re convinced you aren’t doing anything wrong. You’re not being unfaithful to your wife; you’re only letting off steam. After all, your sex drive is far greater than your spouse’s so you’re alright.

It’s just your innocent little secret.

But is it alright? If there wasn’t anything wrong with it, why do you feel as though it should remain a secret?

Pornography is not alright. Neither is adultery, rape, self gratification, or any other kind of fornication.

It’s more than just your innocent little secret. It’s a thief and a robber.

“A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty.” (Proverbs 28:19 NLT)

Pornography is nothing more than raunchy fantasy. Whether you are consuming it in the privacy of your home, or at an “adult” bookstore on the opposite side of town, it’s destroying you from the inside out; even if you don’t believe it is.

Chasing after such fantasy will leave you spiritually, emotionally, and physically ruined. It’s like a fire that cannot be quenched, that continuously screams, “More! More!” (Proverbs 30:16)

Pornography has never added value to any society that has tolerated it. From the days of Nimrod and the Tower of Babel, Nebuchadnezzar and the Babylonians, the Egyptian Pharaohs, the Roman Empire, and on to the present, the worship and idolization of sex has always affected the nation in such a negative way, it finally collapsed. 

No one merely “dabbles” with porn, anymore than someone merely drinks a little poison now and then. Every time a person is exposed to it, their system becomes infected. Each time, a little more poison. Eventually the mind and body become addicted to the “high” that comes from the arousal and subsequent climax. When that happens, the person is enslaved to the demands of the flesh and mind.

A slave to their innocent little secret.

Paul wrote: “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18 NKJV) 

The words, sexual immorality, are translated “fornication” in the KJV of the Bible. The original Greek word is “porneia”. It’s where we get the word pornography. It refers to ANY KIND of sexual activity OUTSIDE the holy covenant of marriage (God’s definition of marriage: one man and one woman).

SEX is beautiful, but fornication is a killer.

“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4 NKJV)

Fornication, porneia, isn’t necessarily having sex with someone other than your spouse. It’s allowing yourself to be sexually stimulated by anyone or anything other than your spouse. Whether you indulge in private viewings on the Internet, or by “sexting” a co-worker, it is fornication.

And you are sinning against your own body (which includes your spouse, since the two have become one).

If you aren’t married? You’re violating your relationship with God.

Don’t care about God?

You’re still driving yourself to ruin.

In case you haven’t noticed, once the sex drive is sparked, it becomes the most powerful impulse known to man. Allow that craving to grow, unchecked and out of control, it will eventually consume all your time, money, and energy. It will isolate you from all that’s good, and keep you from being a productive human being.

“A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls.” (Proverbs 25:28 NLT)

Pornography is a very jealous paramour; a possessive and controlling mistress. She demands your total attention and allegiance. She will not allow you to be really intimate with anyone else; not with your spouse, and not with God.

Your innocent little secret owns you.

There’s only one way to break free. Truth.

Expose your secret to your spouse, or a trusted friend if you’re not married. Confess your sin to God and He’ll forgive you. Find someone whom you trust, who knows God and can pray, and start working together to break the addiction to porn.

Flee tempting situations, and run to your God, your spouse, and your friend. Victory is available, because Jesus is Lord over temptation. 

But first things first. If you aren’t willing to expose your “lover”, you will never be free. However, once things are revealed, great things can begin to happen.

So, shine the light on your innocent little secret and see what God can do.

Pornography – A Feel Good Killer

There are many things in this world which stimulate the human senses; things that make a body say, “aaahhh, how nice!”

Good things and things not so good. Sinful things. Yes, sin can be, and usually is, pleasurable. That’s why it’s so popular.

It’s why you and I do sinful things. We enjoy the good feelings we get. They are pleasurable; for a season. Until the final bill is due.

“…than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season…” (Hebrews 11:25 KJV)

Pornography feels good, at least for a while. 

Pornography is a feel-good killer. You can feel good all the time until it finally kills you. And kill you it will.

Pornography kills intimacy. It is impossible to be intimate with your spouse, completely open and transparent, if your mind is full of pornographic images. Impossible.

I didn’t say it’s impossible to have sex. But intimacy and sex are not synonymous. At all.

Pornography kills a person’s self image. Oh, they may consider themselves quite the stud or vixen while viewing or participating with porn, but when the show closes, the phone call’s finished, and the real live person is staring back at you in the mirror; when reality sets in and your conscience screams at you to be honest with yourself, you have to admit you can’t stand the person you’ve become.

Of course, there is a way to beat THAT feeling. Just keep ignoring it and you’ll find out that porn killed the voice of your conscience. 

If that happens, you are well on your way to becoming a mindless reprobate; completely unable to live according to principles, or honor any commitment, vow, or oath. When the urge, the desire, speaks, every part of your body obeys. It must find a way to answer the “call”, even if it has to steal, lie, cheat, sneak; whatever.

Pornography kills integrity. 

Pornography kills relationships.

Pornography kills innocence.

Pornography kills purity.

Pornography kills any hope of real love.

Pornography is an empty promise. It never delivers what it initially boasts. All it does is open one’s soul to greater degrees of depravity.

It’s like a fire. Pornography keeps striking matches, burning one’s soul a piece at a time, until finally, the life is consumed.

Pornography kills the future of its slave. 

Pornography kills self-control. 

Pornography kills one’s ability to honor the marriage bed. 

“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” (Hebrews 13:4 ESV)

Pornography is fornication. It is adultery. It is vile. It has no redeeming qualities whatsoever. It is diabolical, evil, and many good men and women have been destroyed by it. 

Pornography – a feel-good killer. 

If you’re a slave to it, or if you’re just its close friend, you’d better find a way to get yourself free; while you still have feelings. Because sooner or later, if you don’t kill it, it will kill you. 

While you still have a conscience, find someone somewhere who can help you break your downward journey to hell. 

A feel-good killer will not release you from its grip, any more than a fire will regret the damage it’s doing and blow itself out.

Don’t you think it’s time to get help, get free, and get a life worth living?

I’d like to help you. Go to our Contact Us page and write me. Please.

Sexy Christians



I am going to write some things I believe are from the Lord, but I don’t figure will make me too popular.

There are so many verses in the New Testament dealing with the subject of sexual purity, yet the problem persists.

Problem? What problem?

Sexy Christians.

Fornication. Cohabitation. Sex outside of marriage.

Have you noticed how sexual sins are as common among professing Christians as those who don’t claim any faith?

Pornography, masturbation, strip clubs, and the like are “frowned upon” by the brethren, in an “I’m not so sure if you should be acting like that” kind of way.

We say we should be, “standing up for the Word of God”, but will watch hour after hour of television shows glamorizing sexual sin.

And how many movies will we allow ourselves to be entertained by that feed the sexual side of our carnal nature?

“I’m an adult; I can handle it.”

I guess you know more than God. (Sarcasm intended)

But what does the Bible say?

“When I wrote to you before, I told you not to associate with people who indulge in sexual sin. But I wasn’t talking about unbelievers who indulge in sexual sin, or are greedy, or cheat people, or worship idols. You would have to leave this world to avoid people like that.” (1 Corinthians 5:9-10 NLT)

Maybe one reason there’s such a widespread problem is because we aren’t taking the Bible seriously. 

If we believe the Bible is God’s word, that it’s true concerning salvation, forgiveness, heaven and hell, what do we do with the following verses?

“And don’t forget Sodom and Gomorrah and their neighboring towns, which were filled with immorality and every kind of sexual perversion. Those cities were destroyed by fire and serve as a warning of the eternal fire of God’s judgment.” (Jude 1:7 NLT)

“So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.” (Colossians 3:5 NLT)

“God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor – not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways. Never harm or cheat a Christian brother in this matter by violating his wife, for the Lord avenges all such sins, as we have solemnly warned you before. God has called us to live holy lives, not impure lives. Therefore, anyone who refuses to live by these rules is not disobeying human teaching but is rejecting God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 NLT)

“When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.” (Galatians 5:19-21 NLT)

These are just a few of the many verses written to CHRISTIANS. Including those who think of themselves as sexy Christians.

Sure, it’s important to love one another, and help restore one another. No one’s perfect, after all!

But there’s something about sexual sin that eats away at the very core of our spirit, if we don’t take it seriously. 

See what Paul wrote:

“Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 NLT)

Over and over the word “fornication” is used in the New Testament. It is translated from the Greek word “porneia”. Look familiar? Looks a lot like “pornography”, doesn’t it?

In the book of Revelation (chapters 2 and 3) Jesus mentioned to several churches their need to repent of teaching people to commit sexual sins. They had, as a deadly doctrine, a teaching that encouraged people to commit sexual sins – fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, adultery, and whatever else their little hearts desired. 

Pergamum, Thyatira, and Laodicea were the cities whose churches were rebuked by Jesus. Laodicea wasn’t necessarily teaching people to commit sexual sins; no, they just tolerated anything and everything. “It’s all okay. We have the favor of God, because we’re saved. We love God, and He loves us, so everything is cool.”

Not cool!

By not telling the truth about sexual sins, we are telling people that it’s okay to live like the devil and his host.

“But we’re no longer under law, we’re under grace.”

Grace is God’s way of saying, “I will help you do the right thing.” Grace is never a cover up for sin.

In fact, the only way to cover sin is the blood of Jesus. But it doesn’t cover it up. It removes it completely!

What does God want us to do about sexual sin in the church? Expose it and either help those involved toward repentance and restoration, or help them out the door. 

What?! It’s what Paul said, though he said it quite a bit stronger:

“Even though I am not with you in person, I am with you in the Spirit. And as though I were there, I have already passed judgment on this man in the name of the Lord Jesus. You must call a meeting of the church. I will be present with you in spirit, and so will the power of our Lord Jesus. Then you must throw this man out and hand him over to Satan so that his sinful nature will be destroyed and he himself will be saved on the day the Lord returns.” (1 Corinthians 5:3-5 NLT)

Love and patience does not give a silent nod of approval where sexual sins are involved. Not where the purity of God’s Body is concerned.

God’s Body, the Body of Christ, the Temple of the Holy Spirit, the Dwelling Place for the Glory of God.

If we’re going to preach the gospel, God’s Good News, let’s preach this part, as well: the gospel is the power of God unto salvation and deliverance. Everyone is changed when they come into contact with the Living, Pure, Fountain of Life; Jesus.

Are you a Christian? Are you involved in any kind of sexual sin? You have one course of action, according to the Word of God. 

Get out of it. Get away from it. Get it away from you. Flee fornication!

God did not send His Son just so you and I could be sexy Christians.

Men, Be Men


Recently I spoke to a group of men about secrecy and shame. I told them of my long time addiction to pornography, and its effects on my life, marriage, and ministry. 

And I spoke about freedom.

While I was excited to have such an opportunity to speak, I was wishing I was sitting there listening to someone else tell THEIR story.

I later told some people, “If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn’t be doing what I’m doing now.”

My message was clear and to the point. God created us for something greater than hiding in the shadows; hiding in shame. He’s put a lot more into us than we seem to want to utilize. 

The word for that day was, “Don’t hide with the devil.” That’s a good word for men today, don’t you think? I mean, stand up and face God, regardless of what you’ve done or didn’t do. The quickest way to get forgiveness AND victory over sin is to step out of the shadows, get out of the bushes, and humbly approach the Lord in the Name of Jesus.

Yes, it’s a good word for today. 

But an even better word is, “Men, BE MEN!”

God created men to be strong and courageous. To provide and protect. He gave man the ability to love and live in community and communion. 

With others, and with God. 

The devil wants men to think all of that was lost when Adam didn’t stand up for what was right. True, Adam did yield his rights, privileges, AND dignity to the devil. 

But Jesus got it back!

NOW the word of God says, “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” (1 Corinthians 16:13 ESV)

Yes, His word for us is, “Men, BE MEN!”

Have nothing to do with things that steal, kill, and destroy. Move away from a life of secrecy and shame. God has a life of victory, dominion over darkness, and joy prepared for you. 

And it won’t be found in the shadows, hiding with the devil.

Flee youthful lusts, but pursue righteousness and a life empowered by the Holy Spirit. It’s what God purchased for you, through the death and resurrection of Jesus.

Be a man! A man who is submitted to God. A man who can say, “Get behind me, Satan!” A man who can tenderly love his wife and children, leading them by example into a life with God. 

A man who will guard his heart diligently; lest he lose his testimony with his loved ones, or his ear for the Spirit’s voice.

Be a man!

If you are involved in anything that the Lord wouldn’t be pleased with, DROP IT!

If you aren’t sure, talk with your pastor. 

Men, BE MEN! 

There’s no time left to be anything but what Christ Jesus wants you to be. 

So do it. Get out of the shadows. Get in front of God. Ask Him to fill you with the power to be A MAN!

A man of God.

Drastic Measures


Gaining freedom from pornography can be an instantaneous event, as the power of God drives out the lustful spirits, and the love of Jesus brings forgiveness and grace to the individual.

However, maintaining freedom isn’t an event; it is a process.

A process which involves God’s grace, accountability, and drastic measures at times.

Drastic measures?


Whatever it takes to reprogram your thinking, and establish new, healthy habits.

Drastic measures such as smashing your computer if you can’t stay off the internet. And if your smart phone is where your demons like to hide, throw it away and get an old flip phone. I realize they aren’t near as cool as an iPhone, but hey, freedom is worth it.

It may not be easy, but you may need to find a different place to purchase your fountain drink on your way to work. You know what I’m talking about. Some stores have magazines, and other stores have MAGAZINES! Find a store that is porn free; and you’ll find it easier to remain porn free.

Television, Sirius radio, etc.; a myriad of places to avoid if freedom is important. I didn’t say the process was easy. Easy and drastic aren’t compatible at all.

Doing the easy thing is what gets people like you and I hooked on porn.

Taking drastic measures, along with trusting and obeying God, is what brings us sustainable freedom from porn.

The grace of God will help you do the right thing, when doing the right thing is all that matters.

Drastic measures. Not business as usual.

I believe real freedom is worth it. Don’t you?

“Therefore, dear brothers and sisters, you have no obligation to do what your sinful nature urges you to do. For if you live by its dictates, you will die. But if through the power of the Spirit you put to death the deeds of your sinful nature, you will live.” (Romans 8:12-13 NLT)

Don’t Light The Match


Don’t light the match, and you won’t start a fire.

You cannot “taper down” your addiction to porn, any more than you can taper down burning down your house. To win, don’t light the match.

Every image of porn you look at ignites a fuse inside of you that demands more, more, and MORE.

Each time you SET YOUR EYES on images designed to stir up the inner desire of sexual satisfaction, you build a wall in your spirit that actually keeps you from having true intimacy with your spouse; and spiritual fellowship with God.

“I’m doing better”, you say; but you don’t realize there’s a monster of lust growing inside of you. Sooner or later that monster will not only devour you, but also those who really love and care about you.

Do you really want to be free from the monster of lust?

1. Don’t feed it, STARVE IT. Get rid of it. Not just the hardcore stuff, but even the “soft” stuff that gets your motor racing. Things like television shows, movies, books, and even certain restaurants.

2. Make your eyes obey you. YOU decide what things you’ll focus on. And don’t listen to the advice of those who think “eye candy” won’t hurt you.

3. If you’re married, talk to your spouse about your problem. Ask her/him to pray for you and support your decision to live pure.

4. Find a friend who loves you enough to speak truthfully, prayerfully, and confidentially with you. And I HIGHLY advise choosing a friend who’s of the same sex as you are.

Again, if you don’t keep matches in your pocket, you can’t readily start a fire.

Let your spouse keep the matches. Let them be your ONLY desire for sexual intimacy.

I repeat – don’t light the match and you won’t get burned.

“When you run out of wood, the fire goes out…” (Proverbs 26:20 MSG)

“…There are three things that are never satisfied –
no, four that never say, “Enough!”: the grave, the barren womb, the thirsty desert, the blazing fire.” (Proverbs 30:15-16 NLT)

“Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts…” (2 Timothy 2:22 NLT)

Lustful Lies


Is sexual lust REALLY a problem?

It doesn’t take a high level of intelligence to understand why and how the enemy enjoys using this weapon. He’s taken out a good many men and women with it, and in spite of the fact his tactics rarely change with this weapon, it’s still just as highly effective in our day as it was 6000 years ago.

People who are seduced and controlled by sexual lust have bought a lie; actually, several lies…

In the Lion’s Den


Did you hear the story about Daniel in the Lion’s Den? You have? Well, this one may be a bit different.

You see, there was this other guy named Daniel. Like any red blooded young man, this Daniel began to think about, and talk about, and look at, GIRLS! Throughout his junior and senior high school years, nothing quite piqued his interest like GIRLS!

Of course he’d heard the story of the birds and the bees; quite fascinating, to say the least. Wonder and curiosity kept building inside his mind until, one day, there it was. Something that erased the wonder and satisfied his curiosity. A picture of a young woman, wearing nothing more than a smile.

There’s an old saying that goes something like this: curiosity killed the cat. But really, that isn’t true. While the cat stayed curious, it was okay. When it decided to put an end to its curiosity, that’s when it was done in.

Young Daniel couldn’t believe his eyes! And he LOVED the feelings he was having inside his mind. What he didn’t realize was, that he was soon to be hooked on those particular feelings. Nothing would matter to him as much as those feelings.

Something else would eventually happen to young Daniel. The feelings he once experienced just by looking at pictures of nude women, weren’t so easy to produce. Now, for the same feelings, it required much more explicit, and graphic material. The addiction was demanding more and more “food”, while giving less and less in return.

What was once a wonder and a curiosity, now had become a taskmaster; and Daniel was its slave. His relationships, his finances, his “free” time, all had to obey the monster called sexual addiction.

Such a far cry from God’s perspective of sex.

God never intended for sex to rule, or ruin, any individual! He never desired to see His creativity cheapened and degraded to where it’s used to market everything from toothpaste to automobiles. God’s intent was, and is, for sex to be a beautiful and fulfilling part of intimacy.

Daniel didn’t know it, but sex is NOT intimacy. Sex is sex. Intimacy CAN include sex, but only when other intimate pieces are in place. Things like truth, tenderness, and timing all contribute to true intimacy. When a husband and wife are so committed to the other’s well being and happiness, then the act of sex can add to the intimate RELATIONSHIP.

But poor, young Daniel. He’s trapped inside the Lion’s Den.

There is a way out, however.

“Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith.” (1 Peter 5:8-9 NLT)

There is always a door leading to the Lion’s Den. Think about it.

No matter if your name is Daniel, George, James, or Sinbad the Sailor; if you stay away from the door, you can’t go in! If you are already in, there’s a door that leads back to the outside!

Deliverance begins with a desire to be free, and then calls for genuine repentance.

Turning around and facing the opposite direction is repentance. Trusting Jesus for the strength to do the right thing is called smart! Developing a godly relationship, based on truth, with a friend (of the same sex) is called safety. And giving a friend the freedom to speak honestly with you, even when it hurts, is called wisdom!

Yes, God CAN deliver every single Daniel out of any and every Lion’s Den.

But too many Daniels are being devoured.

How are YOU doing?

By the way, I realize Danielle’s can be slaves to the same monster who controls Daniels. And the way out is the same for them.

Be free in Jesus’ power!

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