This post is written mainly for men, but it can also be for women; women who share in the same innocent little secret.
You’re convinced you aren’t doing anything wrong. You’re not being unfaithful to your wife; you’re only letting off steam. After all, your sex drive is far greater than your spouse’s so you’re alright.
It’s just your innocent little secret.
But is it alright? If there wasn’t anything wrong with it, why do you feel as though it should remain a secret?
Pornography is not alright. Neither is adultery, rape, self gratification, or any other kind of fornication.
It’s more than just your innocent little secret. It’s a thief and a robber.
“A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty.” (Proverbs 28:19 NLT)
Pornography is nothing more than raunchy fantasy. Whether you are consuming it in the privacy of your home, or at an “adult” bookstore on the opposite side of town, it’s destroying you from the inside out; even if you don’t believe it is.
Chasing after such fantasy will leave you spiritually, emotionally, and physically ruined. It’s like a fire that cannot be quenched, that continuously screams, “More! More!” (Proverbs 30:16)
Pornography has never added value to any society that has tolerated it. From the days of Nimrod and the Tower of Babel, Nebuchadnezzar and the Babylonians, the Egyptian Pharaohs, the Roman Empire, and on to the present, the worship and idolization of sex has always affected the nation in such a negative way, it finally collapsed.
No one merely “dabbles” with porn, anymore than someone merely drinks a little poison now and then. Every time a person is exposed to it, their system becomes infected. Each time, a little more poison. Eventually the mind and body become addicted to the “high” that comes from the arousal and subsequent climax. When that happens, the person is enslaved to the demands of the flesh and mind.
A slave to their innocent little secret.
Paul wrote: “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18 NKJV)
The words, sexual immorality, are translated “fornication” in the KJV of the Bible. The original Greek word is “porneia”. It’s where we get the word pornography. It refers to ANY KIND of sexual activity OUTSIDE the holy covenant of marriage (God’s definition of marriage: one man and one woman).
SEX is beautiful, but fornication is a killer.
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4 NKJV)
Fornication, porneia, isn’t necessarily having sex with someone other than your spouse. It’s allowing yourself to be sexually stimulated by anyone or anything other than your spouse. Whether you indulge in private viewings on the Internet, or by “sexting” a co-worker, it is fornication.
And you are sinning against your own body (which includes your spouse, since the two have become one).
If you aren’t married? You’re violating your relationship with God.
Don’t care about God?
You’re still driving yourself to ruin.
In case you haven’t noticed, once the sex drive is sparked, it becomes the most powerful impulse known to man. Allow that craving to grow, unchecked and out of control, it will eventually consume all your time, money, and energy. It will isolate you from all that’s good, and keep you from being a productive human being.
“A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls.” (Proverbs 25:28 NLT)
Pornography is a very jealous paramour; a possessive and controlling mistress. She demands your total attention and allegiance. She will not allow you to be really intimate with anyone else; not with your spouse, and not with God.
Your innocent little secret owns you.
There’s only one way to break free. Truth.
Expose your secret to your spouse, or a trusted friend if you’re not married. Confess your sin to God and He’ll forgive you. Find someone whom you trust, who knows God and can pray, and start working together to break the addiction to porn.
Flee tempting situations, and run to your God, your spouse, and your friend. Victory is available, because Jesus is Lord over temptation.
But first things first. If you aren’t willing to expose your “lover”, you will never be free. However, once things are revealed, great things can begin to happen.
So, shine the light on your innocent little secret and see what God can do.
Jan Grace 