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Adultery – A Brainless Act

This is for everyone who is even remotely entertaining the idea of having some “extramarital fun”. Who has become flirty with the guy at work, or the gal next door. The couple who’ve allowed their marriage to become nothing more than a document filed in a county courthouse somewhere.

For the person who believes internet chat rooms and pornographic web sites aren’t a problem.

Maybe it’s for you, or someone you know.

Webster defines adultery this way – sex between a married person and someone who is not that person’s wife or husband.

Some folks call it an affair, others try to convince themselves “everyone is doing it”. They believe the rhetoric which says “traditional marriage is old-fashioned.” Still others will try and write it off as a one night stand, a lapse in judgment; one of those “I couldn’t help myself” moments.

But adultery is a violent attack against one’s spouse. It is just as violent as taking a knife to their throat, and while the blood pours onto the ground saying to them, “I just don’t love you anymore. I’ve found someone else.”

It is like Malachi wrote – “…the violent dismembering of the ‘one flesh’ of marriage…” (Malachi 2:16 MSG)

Some even post pictures or write about their new “relationship” on Facebook. They want people to help ease their conscience by saying, “Congratulations”.

Makes me want to say, “Congratulations on your brainless act of adultery.” Wonder how that would go over?

If I had a dollar for every time an adulterer said, “I just want to be happy”, I’d be a VERY rich man!

Think about a murderer, on the witness stand at his trial, answering the question, “Why did you murder your spouse?” Imagine them saying, “I just wanted to be happy.” How would that sound to the judge?

Adultery, according to the writer of Proverbs, is a brainless act.

“Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good.” (Proverbs 6:32 MSG)

Brainless act; letting the animalistic nature take over. (By the way, I know what it’s like to be brainless and come very close to losing everything).

Allowing a smile from someone other than one’s spouse become an invitation. Welcoming strange fire into one’s bosom. Becoming obsessed with thoughts about someone who should be off limits.

Feeding one’s curiosity with thoughts such as, “I wonder if they feel the same as I do?” “Are they giving me some kind of hidden signal?”

No one has ever just stumbled and fallen into adultery. It has always been the result of first ignoring the warning sounds, the barking watch dog, in one’s heart. That inner voice which screams, “Don’t go there! Don’t be a fool!”

Or, like on the old sci-fi show, “Lost in Space”, the robot which says, “Warning! Warning! Danger, Will Robinson, Danger!”

I think we all know ignoring certain road signs can be detrimental to one’s health. Drinking poison can be deadly. Setting oneself on fire is suicidal.

Adultery is a brainless act. 

It is a violent act. Not only to the wounded spouse and the rest of the family, but to oneself. As we read in Proverbs, “…soul-destroying, self-destructive; expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good”.

Someone once told me, after they had been caught in adultery, “I need to leave my spouse, because I don’t want the other person to get away.”

A brainless, and heartless, act. 

According to Jesus, it need not be an actual physical action, but could be simply lust in a person’s mind/heart toward someone other than their spouse.

It may only be one-sided. The other person, the object of “affection” may not realize they have become someone’s fantasy.

But it is still adultery.

The people who produce pornography EXPECT to become someone’s fantasy. Pornography is either adultery or fornication; it all depends on whether the person viewing it is married or not.

Are YOU married? Are YOU viewing pornography? Have YOU allowed thoughts of another person to push aside thoughts of your spouse. Are YOU letting someone else get too close to your heart?

If so, RUN, don’t walk, AWAY from the other person as quickly as possible. Don’t even linger to say goodbye. Shut down the flow of evil thoughts, desires, and actions.

Start USING your brain. Understand what adultery is, and the consequences of getting involved with someone other than your spouse. YOU CAN’T AFFORD IT!

No one can afford the cost of such a brainless act.

So, run from even the hint of an inappropriate relationship.

And keep the knife from your spouse’s throat.

The One Second Rule

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“Wait a second!”

Have you ever considered just how long a second is? Or how much can be accomplished, either good or bad, within the little bit of time we call a second?

For example, if you travel at the moderate speed of 60 miles an hour, or a mile a minute, in one second you’ll travel 88 feet. Though it may not seem like a long distance, imagine what could happen if you fell asleep for a second or two.

Why am I writing about seconds?

For one reason; men (and women) can find themselves in real trouble if they let their thoughts run wild for a second or two.

The experts say humans think somewhere around 60-80,000 thoughts per day. Somewhat close to a thought per second. And if we would consider the role our eyes play in how and what we think, our thoughts may spike to as many as 5-10 thoughts a second!

Especially a man’s thoughts. 

When his eyes catch sight of a pretty woman.

That’s why I’d like to introduce my “One Second Rule” to men everywhere. 

Here’s how simple, yet powerful, it is.

Let’s say you’re walking in the mall, or anywhere there are people. You’re minding your own business, thinking thoughts your wife, daughter, or mother would sanction.

All of a sudden, without any warning, some cute little thing rushes past you, bouncing in all the right places. You can’t help but notice.

Really, you can’t help it.

But you are ready for it. Instinctively you count to yourself, “One-thousand-one”.

Out loud if necessary.

After one second, your mind shifts to a different direction. Your mind says, “Yep, one second isn’t very long. Now I can get back to living my life.”

I would venture to say if you’ll practice the one second rule, you’ll find yourself not even taking the whole time to retrieve your thoughts.

If you’ll train your thoughts, you’ll have an easier time training the rest of your body.

Which means you won’t spend time wondering if a person is trying to signal you with their body language, or a special gleam in their eye.

Remember, a lot can happen in a second.

Make sure you use your second for good. 

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