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Sex and Love



It’s used to sell clothes, coffee, cars, and sometimes certain celebrities. Or maybe magazines, movies, and makeup.

Some folks just plain use it.

To some, it’s a pry bar, others as a treat for good behavior. Kind of like training a dog to learn a trick; once they get it down they are rewarded with a treat.

Great with dogs. Not so, with people.

It’s been referred to as “making love”, but too often it has nothing to do with love. The old phrase from the 60’s, “Make love not war”, had nothing to do with love and everything to do with sex.

Sex and love are not synonymous terms. They cannot be used interchangeably. At least, they shouldn’t be.

SEX is not the mark of maturity, nor is it a sign of commitment. It should never be used to hold on to a relationship, or as an excuse to leave one.

SEX should be enjoyed as an expression of love between a husband and wife; one of many ways a couple will declare their undying love for their mate throughout their married life.

But SEX should never be the focus in a marriage. A relationship built around sex can have too many opportunities for the enemy’s sabotage.

Sex and love. My, how people have gotten the two jumbled up.

SEX can’t cover a multitude of sins, let alone even one sin.

But love does.

SEX doesn’t lay itself down for the other, especially in the heat of the moment.

But love does. Love will stop whatever it’s doing for the sake of others.

SEX can be forced, traded, and trafficked.

Not so with love.

So, try not to get sex and love mixed up. I mean, don’t use one word if you really mean the other.

It is great, though, when sex reflects real love, and when love can be expressed in such holy intimacy.

Sex and love. Part of the Creator’s plan for His best creation.

The Sex Addict


The addict. The dictionary defines an addict as someone who has a strong and habitual liking for something.

Something like, for instance, sex.

Now I’m nobody’s fool; I realize most people who have experienced some degree of the sexual experience would agree it’s likable. Some might even go so far as to say sex is downright enjoyable.

But enjoying it and being addicted to it are two separate issues.

God created the sex act. He made it enjoyable. He also gave it his blessing; as it takes place between a married couple, a man and woman who are married to each other.

But God did not create perversion; nor does he condone sex at the expense of either of the partner’s spiritual, emotional, or physical health. However, those with a sexual addiction eventually will not be able to contain the sex drive within the safe boundaries of God’s word. The addiction grows until it becomes a fire that cannot be quenched. It ultimately ruins every part of its slave’s life.

Sexual addiction is not only a physical and emotional addiction, I believe it is a spiritual addiction, as well.

“Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:16-18 ESV)

The sexually addicted person becomes an unstable, unpredictable person. Though they may have been born again through faith in Christ, their spirit is divided. One part is connected to Jesus and the other part to the cravings the sexual experience brings.

Selfishness is a major spiritual force in the life of the addict. Pleasing self, satisfying the urge, is the dominating drive. It’s not, “How may I please my spouse”? No, it’s about pleasing self.

Tenderness and self control are spiritual forces that, when developed according to God’s principles and spiritual power, can overcome the cravings, habits, and even the perversions of the sex addict.

No one is born a sex addict. It happens gradually, choice after choice, experience after experience. It grows until it can no longer be contained in the dark, but must manifest itself wherever and whenever the urge; regardless of who may be affected.

It’s like a flame which continually reaches for more fuel. To some, more fuel means greater perversion; others, more stimulants and more often. Still others may act out their addiction targeting children and even animals.

But no one is born craving the fulfillment of sexual fantasies.

Sexual addictions can be broken by the power of God, BUT THE FREEDOM WILL BE MAINTAINED ONE DECISION AT A TIME.

How are you doing?

“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20 ESV)

You have a choice. Decide what and who you’ll serve. Ask someone you trust to help you act on your decision.

And know God is also as close as the mention of his name.

“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16 ESV)

For more information, and a steady diet of encouragement, please go to my facebook page “Freedom From Pornography” @ http://www.facebook.com/dumpporn

Locked Out Of Heaven?


Well, it wasn’t much of a Super Bowl game, was it? Unless, of course, you were a Seattle Seahawks fan. But even then, at the end of the night it was just another game.

Just another game.

I didn’t watch the halftime show. Instead, my wife and I watched an old Gomer Pyle, USMC show from the late 60’s. So I missed the Bruno Mars and Red Hot Chili Peppers show.

I heard about the “Locked Out Of Heaven” song. I was kind of curious so I googled the lyrics just to satisfy my curiosity. Oh my! The devil sure didn’t treat it like it was just another halftime!

Here’s just a portion of the words.

“Locked Out Of Heaven”
Bruno Mars

Never had much faith in love or miracles
Never wanna put my heart on the line
But swimming in your water* is something spiritual
I’m born again every time you spend the night

‘Cause your sex takes me to paradise
Yeah, your sex takes me to paradise
And it shows, yeah, yeah, yeah

‘Cause you make me feel like I’ve been locked out of heaven
For too long, for too long
Yeah, you make me feel like I’ve been locked out of heaven
For too long, for too long

BRUNO MARS lyrics are property and copyright of their owners.
Copyright © 2000-2014 AZLyrics.com

With approximately 111 million viewers, those who planned the halftime “propaganda” for the devil had quite an audience. The prince of the power of the “air” (TV airtime gives the devil’s title an interesting meaning) certainly brought his A game to the viewers. Much more than Denver did, that’s for sure. But look at the blatant mockery of God’s love and mercy. Using certain phrases, such as faith in love and miracles, the heart, born again, and paradise to describe a sexual encounter is vulgar at best; at worst it mocks God, and deifies animalistic sexual behavior.

“Locked out of Heaven” isn’t really something to be happy about. If sex REALLY made Bruno Mars feel like he’d been “locked out of Heaven”, it wouldn’t be a love song, that’s for certain.

The words would describe something a lot different than sexual feelings or an orgasmic experience. Sorry to be so blunt.

If one is truly locked out of Heaven, they’ll discover Hell to be unlike any sexual thrill ever conceived by man! Even S&M encounters cannot compare with the Domain of the Damned! Hell is a place that throws no parties for its tenants, no orgies for its playful pretties, and there are no special moments for pleasure of ANY kind.

Do these words make Hell sound like a fun place? Words such as “wailing and gnashing of teeth“, “eternal torment“, “utter darkness“, “consuming worms“, “eternally separated from the Presence of the Lord“, and “the lake of fire that was prepared for the devil and his angels“.

I tell you what; if having sex is anything like “locked out of Heaven”, there sure wouldn’t be 7 billion people on planet earth!

Here’s the true gospel. Because of Adam’s sin, his disobedience and rebellion toward God, Heaven WAS locked. We WERE locked out of Heaven.

But Jesus came as our offering for sin.

“He was despised and rejected – a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief. We turned our backs on him and looked the other way. He was despised, and we did not care.

“Yet it was our weaknesses he carried; it was our sorrows that weighed him down. And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God, a punishment for his own sins! But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed. All of us, like sheep, have strayed away. We have left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet the Lord laid on him the sins of us all.” (Isaiah 53:3-6 NLT)

“He gave his life to free us from every kind of sin, to cleanse us, and to make us his very own people, totally committed to doing good deeds.” (Titus 2:14 NLT)

“And anyone who believes in God’s Son has eternal life. Anyone who doesn’t obey the Son will never experience eternal life but remains under God’s angry judgment.” (John 3:36 NLT)

Heaven is WIDE OPEN to whoever receive Jesus as the Lord of their life! The blood of Jesus UNLOCKED Heaven for anyone and everyone who will repent and believe the gospel.

That’s the message of the cross of Christ. Much more than a halftime show for a game that’s just a game. It’s a message with eternal ramifications.

You can believe whatever you’d like. You can call me a nut, a prude, old fashioned, or just plain stupid. Whatever. But this I can say with certainty.

I’m not locked out of Heaven. Are you?

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