Tag: pain

Pain hurts, so ease up a bit.

“Suck it up, brother! Jesus is your Savior, Healer, and soon coming King.”

So says the well meaning Christian to the dear one who’s going through a painful and emotional hurricane.

Does it help?

No!

Why?

Because pain is still pain, and words designed to demean others while showcasing one’s own “spiritual superiority” never ease anyone’s pain.

Scripture alone will not heal or ease the pain. There’s more to it than blasting people with the Word.

“But…”

Yeah?

“But the word says, ‘he sent His Word and healed them’” (Psalm 107:20).

Yes, it does. And, there are a lot of other scriptures that support the psalmist’s testimony.

Yet here’s a point we can’t forget. GOD sent His Word. JESUS told the soldier, “Go your way, your servant is healed”.

Aren’t we supposed to do the works Jesus did (John 14)? Yes, and even greater ones!

But that doesn’t mean we act as though we’re high and mighty and others should feel grateful just having us speak with them.

We are to do things like the Word says, but only do them in the way Jesus would.

“And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.” (Colossians 3:17 NLT)

Do them as He would do them, IF He would do them.

Speak the truth in love, with faith AND compassion, tenderly using the opportunity to minister grace to the hearer (Ephesians 4:29).

Pain, regardless of the reason, speaks loud enough for the sufferer to hear. If there’s a lesson to be learned  it won’t come from some egotistical maniac using scripture on the sufferer as though they’re an idiot.

Jesus always spoke truth. He always shared the Word. And He always did it in love, not for His sake but for the good of others AND the glory of God.

Those going through pain, sorrow, or grief don’t need cute quips, quotes, or cutting remarks. Even if someone is hurting as a result of sin, they can still receive compassion from God.

“And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven.” (James 5:15 ESV)

If God will minister real grace and compassion to the hurting, don’t you think He’d have us do the same?

Pain is painful. Let’s not add insult to injury.

Instead of blasting the hurting with our scripture “stones”, how about if we just simply DO His Word.

“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” (Galatians 6:1 ESV)

So, what would you do to comfort the afflicted, help ease someone’s pain, while staying true to the scriptures?

Your pain can be a catalyst for hope.

I published a short post yesterday entitled, “When it hurts like hell.” In it I talked about pain that is so bad it feels like God has abandoned you. Pain so strong it’s impossible to make any sense out of it.

While I was in no way attempting to equate anyone’s pain with unimaginable conditions of the eternal place of the damned, there are times when the only way to describe what you’re feeling is to refer to a place out of this world. A terrible place, at that.

But I’d like to make one distinction between our worst possible pain and the place called hell.

Probably the one major difference between anyone’s pain and hell is hope.

Hell offers no hope whatsoever. 

Yet, even in our deepest, darkest pain there is hope.

You may have to search to find it, but if you’ll seek, you will find.

“But where should I look?”

The God of hope (Romans 15:13). He’s the only One who has been to hell, conquering it before rising from the dead.

“(I Am…) and the living One; and I was dead, and behold, I am alive forevermore, and I have the keys of death and of Hades.” (Revelation 1:18 NASB)

“But I can’t see God when I’m feeling great, let alone when I’m in deep despair!”

Search the scriptures, the Holy Bible, God’s written word. Within its pages are stories, examples of people like you and I who experienced tremendous pain, yet somehow made it through.

You will also find exceedingly great and precious promises from God; words He’ll speak directly to your hurting heart.

“For whatever things were written before were written for our learning, that we through the patience and comfort of the Scriptures might have hope.” (Romans 15:4 NKJV)

God has NEVER promised a life (while on this earth) free of pain. He HAS promised to be at our side, and go through everything with us.

The very One Who conquered death, hell, and the grave can conquer our pain; all the while leading us in paths of righteousness for His Name’s sake.

So the next time it “hurts like hell”, let your pain be a catalyst for hope. Let it remind you of Jesus, Who has gone through the greatest pain ever known and yet says, “Come to Me…and find rest for your soul”.

Paul learned this truth, as he described in his second letter to the Corinthians.

“And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Corinthians 12:9 – 12:10 NKJV)

Don’t allow your pain to bury you. And if you need help rising above it, reach out to the faithful God and a faithful friend.

When it hurts like hell

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The phrase is an apt description of certain periods of pain. Pain so intense, God seems to be light years away.

It hurts like hell describes pain, whether physical or emotional, that is so dark and senseless; without the slightest hint of understanding or explanation.

It just hurts.

Like hell.

Have you ever experienced such pain?

Maybe you’ve been the cause of it.

I’d like to say there’s a fast answer; an immediate cure for such pain.

But I can’t.

Sure, I could say, “Give it to Jesus. Cast your cares on Him for He cares for you.”

And yes, it’s a very good thing to do. But life still goes on, circumstances are as they were, and we still must find a way to cope.

The only consolation I’ve found, with God’s help, is truth that I’m not alone when it hurts like hell.

I don’t always feel God’s presence, or His care. But He has promised to be with me in trouble; in fact, a very present help in times of trouble.

“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” (Psalm 46:1 ESV)

Even when it hurts like hell.

Have You Ever Been Disowned?

How many times can a person be disowned without it affecting them? 

Have you ever been disowned? Have you ever been told you’re no longer part of the family?

Maybe not a family, but perhaps a softball team, church, group of friends, or dinner club?

And why the announcement? Because you didn’t measure up in someone’s eyes. You were either too this or that; somehow you didn’t meet the expectations of the designated leader.

And it’s such a shame.

Or is it?

How do you feel when you’re told in no uncertain terms, “You do not belong! You are no longer one of us”?

I know it can really hurt. I’ve experienced it several times in my life. I wanted to belong, because I believed I should.

There have even been times I felt it was my God-given right to belong; my birthright, if you will. But hey, what do I know? I wasn’t the one making the rules.

Even though I knew I was loved and appreciated by a number of other people, and I’d try to act like it didn’t matter, it still hurt to be disowned.

It hurt like crazy. 

Perhaps you’ve experienced some of the same rejection. How does it make you feel? What are you doing with your feelings? Are you handling them well, or do you find yourself making excuses for the rule maker?

 How many lifetimes will you have to live before you find the correct formula for making the grade? 

 And what if the rules change, like they sometimes do?

Can you maintain your vigilance, chasing the elusive right to belong, and still be who God created you to be?

I think I’m finally starting to understand that to some, unless I act exactly according to their rules, I’ll never belong.

What about you? Are there people who love to hold the coveted “you are finally good enough to belong to us” award in front of your face? They know you can’t live without it; you so want to belong to their group. Family, friends, team, whoever; you only want to belong.

But you can’t. Because if you have to change that much just to fall in line with them, are you really you?

I am so glad my Heavenly Father doesn’t treat His family that way.

“…those the Father has given me will come to me, and I will never reject them.” (John 6:37 NLT)

“The eye can never say to the hand, “I don’t need you.” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you.” In fact, some parts of the body that seem weakest and least important are actually the most necessary” (1 Corinthians 12:21-22 NLT)

Notice the Head (Christ) won’t say to the feet (you and I), “I don’t need you.”

Even when we don’t measure up, the Ruler of the Universe offers grace and mercy. Though we may have disgraced Him, His Name, and His Family, He says, “Come unto Me.”

And He’s always ready to help us with any changes we may need to make.

Though we may be disowned and cast aside like a used paper towel, God has promised to never leave us or forsake us. He says we belong. 

His blood was sufficient for all our shortcomings, all our failures. That’s why He went to the cross.

Others may be too good to help someone as rotten as you and I measure up to their standards. But the Lord of All came in our stead, took our place, so we could become part of His family.

Disowned? It happens, and it hurts. But you don’t need to be alone. There’s Someone Who will receive you; all you need to do is receive Him.

“For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin, so that we could be made right with God through Christ.” (2 Corinthians 5:21 NLT)

Will you?

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