Rape is NEVER okay.
It should NEVER be tolerated, and its punishment should be VERY SEVERE.
With that said, let’s look at ways it may be prevented.
And no, I’m not going to blame the victim for the actions of the rapist.
Rapists aren’t just born, they develop. No little guy is ever destined to become a rapist; a person who violates another sexually.
I have a hard time believing a high school or college kid walks down a dark alley one night, sees a young lady passed out, all alone, and for the first time in his life, the lustful violent thoughts of rape move him to action. It may be the first time he actually commits the crime, but lustful cravings have probably been building up to that point.
Since the rapist is almost always a guy, I’ll direct my comments to male readers.
What is your opinion of women? Are they mere sex objects, something to be used for your own gratification and pleasure?
No? But are you viewing pictures or videos of women for your sexual enjoyment?
Do you fantasize about the different females you know? Do you value them based on their attractiveness, and their willingness to give you what you want?
When you date someone, where do you go? What’s the goal for the evening? Is your goal to “score” or do you honestly value her innocence and want to help her protect it?
Is sexual purity something you strive for, or are you playing the field; no commitment to morality, God, or even the woman you say you’re crazy about?
If you found yourself in a compromising situation; say the woman you were with suddenly made the suggestion to have sex, would her consent be all you’d need to get at it?
What if she dressed provocatively, spoke and acted in a flirty, sexy manner all evening long, and finally, at the end of the evening passed out in front of you (in a secluded area)?
Would THAT give you the green light to do as you please with her body?
How often is your “fuse” lit? If a woman brushes against you, even accidentally, do you find yourself becoming aroused?
What happens when they give you that “smile” that says, “c’mon, see what you can get me to do”?
What’s my point with all these questions? Guys, I’m saying the more YOU allow your fuse to be lit, the more you flirt with sex, the more you put yourself in compromising situations, AND the longer you think it’s okay to pursue YOUR pleasure through whatever means works (including masturbation), YOU are just that much closer to becoming a rapist.
Husbands, it’s NOT OKAY to rape your wife, either!
Forceful, violent sex is never right.
“God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor…” (1 Thessalonians 4:3 – 4:4 NLT)
Stay away from ALL sexual sin. Period.
You’ll never be on trial for “20 minutes of action…”