Here’s a very important question for each husband and wife:
“How hard is your heart?”
What do I mean by a “hard heart”?
Our heart, our emotional and spiritual core, can be tender or hard, pliable or brittle, peaceful or wired, engaging or repulsive.
We are the ones who manage our heart.
Do you keep your eyes peeled for some kind of mistake or blunder by your spouse? If so, your heart may be getting hard.
Do you compare your spouse with a former girlfriend/boyfriend? Not a good move, if you’re trying to keep your heart tender to God AND to your spouse.
How are you at keeping confidences, or do you feel the need to expose your spouse’s idiosyncrasies to the world? Sclerosis of the heart is beginning to develop.
You’ve been hurt, cheated on, misunderstood, and abandoned by your spouse. But how’s your heart?
Is it tender to God?
Can God console you with His tenderness and strength? Are you interested in what He may have to say about your situation? If your answer is “No”, then your heart is growing hard.
If you will not guard your heart against becoming hard, there will probably come a time when you and your spouse will part ways.
Jesus said it.
They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.” (Matthew 19:7-8 ESV)
If EACH person, husband and wife, will make sure their heart is tender to God AND each other, divorce will NEVER, EVER, be a part of their lives.
So, how hard is your heart?